“Success is not final, failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts.”
The Benefits of Individual Therapy
It can erect barriers and limiting beliefs that interfere with or even prevent growth and stifle creativity. It can be like a magic key that dissolves negativity, resistance and obstacles and unlocks potential. It opens up the path and illuminates the way to infinite possibilities and new perspectives and choices.
Therapy deepens understanding, promotes awareness, fosters acceptance and activates consideration and appreciation. It can lead to profound insights and positive change. It enhances interpersonal skills and communication, and betters relationships. It stimulates creativity and facilitates the creation of a meaningful and rewarding life.
Albert Einstein said 'We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.' The same behaviour and approach cannot produce a different result. Therapy promotes the development of alternative ways to reduce negative input to our mind. Therefore, we can approach others and respond to events and challenges in a more positive and effective way. Therapy broadens your perspective, and reveals and nurtures more effective ways of connecting and communicating. We begin to see things in a different light and from a different point of view, which enables growth and positive change in all areas of life.
Connection, balance and alignment in the mind-body system leads to increased physical and emotional health.
The therapeutic process also enables us, to talk about ourselves, our needs, thoughts and feelings as individual members of the couple and also observe and examine our behaviour and responses as part of the couple. We learn to explore our attitudes, expectations and beliefs and identify strengths and weaknesses. Each partner becomes motivated and empowered to take responsibility for the relationship, instead of attributing all the negative parts to the other partner and expect the other to make all the changes. The development of empathy fosters compassion and the ability to be in the “other’s shoes”. It creates a shift from blaming the other to realising that we co-create our reality and we are both responsible for positive change.
Also, within an intimate couples relationship, childhood trauma, fear, wounds, painful feelings, repressed and forgotten experiences are re-enacted, relived and felt as if they belong to the couple exchange. In this sense, they determine behaviour in the present, although they belong to the past. It is vital for each member to recognise this and nurture growing understanding of what has to do with the past (what springs from our family of origin, education, culture, etc) and doesn't belong to the here and now. This awareness alone can lift a heavy load of tension and clear misunderstandings that cloud the couple’s every day life.
Therapy also provides the space, where we can think and gain insight into how we approach mounting tensions (crises, challenges, arguments, disputes) and whatever challenges life brings our way. We learn how to work through challenges, resolve conflict and acquire wisdom from failure. We are enabled to minimise undesirable behaviours that distract us from positive exchange. Thus we learn to exist together in a more functional and healthier way.